I was having a chat with some coworkers the other day and the topic of infidelity came up. Of the three of us one woman said that she would leave her husband , I said that I would not and the only man who was there didn't really commit to a comment.
Personally, I think that we as a society put too much emphasis on sexual fidelity in committed relationships.
Of all the couples I know, there is only one relationship that is healthy and going strong. Everyone, I mean every one, even those perfect couples you see here and there have huge skeletons in their closets. Divorce is not very common in my circle but most of these couples are so bitter/miserable/indiferent to each other that it seems like the only secret to a long term marriage is putting blinders on or lowering your expectations.
Last week Washington DC became one of the first places to allow. One of the first places to achieve equal marriage rights without being forced to by the courts. The GLBT press is giving credit to the churches in DC in making it happen.
ok, folks, I am making an appeal here...which may be off-line, and considered spam..but bear with me....
For years, folks who were gay were excluded from marraige.
For years, proms were a no-no
For years, the company Christmas party was a miss
and, yes, for years, competitions about my wonderful love, or our marriage, or our family, were only for a select group -- those of us who are married to those of the opposite sex.
This is a question I just thought of when I was reading some old stuff.
How important is it that your wife/husband/life partner be good in the bedroom?
If you knew they were bad and would never get better... would you consider not marrying or spending the rest of your life with this person? How important is good sex to a life-long commitment?
alivetoday's "Valentine's Day (aka: singles awareness day)" thread made me wonder if there are enough of us unpartnered here on the 'cafe to have a thread of our own to share our thoughts and to know we're not alone in a sea of couples.
It's not my intention at all to create a matchmaking thread, but simply a place to talk about our experiences and hopes for ourselves.
To begin with a few questions, I guess an obvious one is 'Are you looking or content for now"?
Ok, so...it's been a year since my husband left...I have been on several dates and have met many gentleman...and some creeps...
It really bugs me when someone asks me, or takes it upon themselves to think, that I'm not ready to move on...so I ask you all, is there a 'normal' time frame that passes before a new relationship can begin? I have realized, I am relational...I am not interested in 'dating' a bunch of guys and I can tell very quickly if there is an attraction...
One of the excuses that homophobes use in their fight to deny people the right to marry, is the lame duck defence of "traditional marriage". Here is an interesting article that debunks that foolishness with some solid historical and theological research.
I'm wondering what the definition of "marriage" is to everyone else.
Marriage, to me, is a committed union between two people that is agreed to by both persons (regardless of gender), brought to God with an honest and loving heart, and blessed by Him.
