Serena
Meeting the Parents
Posted on: 07/15/2010 20:03
Okay I am in serious trouble now. My boyfriend and I are invited to his parents' house for supper on Saturday night.
I don't think that in my history of dating that this has happened so I don't know what to do. Any advice would be helpful.
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carolla
Hey Serena - first of all,
Posted on: 07/15/2010 20:31
Hey Serena - first of all, remember that parents are first and foremost PEOPLE. Behave well, just as you would meeting other new people, and relax as best you can. Will there be other people there? Chat with bf to see what might be best to wear. Perhaps take a small bouquet of flowers as a 'hostess gift' ... as you might if going to friend's home for dinner. Offer to help with preparations or tidy-up and if declined, be gracious. Be a good conversationalist.
Have you asked him if he's taken other gf's for dinner? How did parents react? Any history to watch out for - i.e. stuff to definitely NOT talk about? Probably doesn't need to be said, but go easy on the alcohol if any is being served. And I'd suggest minimizing 'public displays of affection' as some call it!
Enjoy!
Tyson
If you want a discussion
Posted on: 07/15/2010 22:11
If you want a discussion starter, I suggest farting. Not little squeekers either, but huge cheeck flappers, house rumblers and nuclear types. Nothing breaks the ice like breaking wind.
MorningCalm
Serena wrote: Okay I am in
Posted on: 07/15/2010 22:20
Okay I am in serious trouble now. My boyfriend and I are invited to his parents' house for supper on Saturday night.
I don't think that in my history of dating that this has happened so I don't know what to do. Any advice would be helpful.
A couple of years ago, just before my Yobo and I got married, I met my Chungmonim for the first time. I was a bit worried before hand, but it all went really well. I gave the traditional deep Korean bow, as strongly suggested by my fiance. Her Oma really appreciated it and responded with a really nice big smile. We really hit it off despite her knowing no English and my knowing virtually no Korean. My best advice is just to relax, be yourself, and have fun with it. The reality is nowhere near as bad as anything fears might imagine up.
crazyheart
This is really moving right
Posted on: 07/15/2010 23:01
This is really moving right along Serena. have a good supper and just be yourself.
jon71
Be yourself, but be yourself
Posted on: 07/16/2010 06:44
Be yourself, but be yourself at your Sunday best (so to speak). Also, congratulations that things are going so well.
naman
Meeting the parents is a big
Posted on: 07/16/2010 07:18
Meeting the parents is a big part of a romance. Keep us posted.
lastpointe
Just be your charming self.
Posted on: 07/16/2010 08:59
Just be your charming self. Find out ahead of time a bit about them might help with conversation As in "I hear you love to garden, I woudl love to see what you are growing now.".....
Definately take a small gift. Homemade jam if you make it, flowers, a bottle of wine...
Hilary
The advice here is
Posted on: 07/16/2010 18:00
The advice here is good.
Have fun, Serena. And good luck!
Witch
Eat heartily, drink
Posted on: 07/16/2010 18:14
Eat heartily, drink sparingly. Enjoy everything.... even if you don't.
Balkirk
I say become the total
Posted on: 07/17/2010 06:35
I say become the total opposite of who you really are. If they like you then it speaks volumes of the love of their son...which makes him a good man.
Whatever you don't do what I did when I met the ex-gf parents..I screamed at the dad "lemme hear your warcry!" than went the bathroom had a long hot bath.
Rowan
Don't panic. Be yourself. Be
Posted on: 07/19/2010 21:11
Don't panic. Be yourself. Be polite. Have fun.
puppypaws
So Serena.... How did it
Posted on: 07/19/2010 21:42
So Serena.... How did it go!?
Serena
Well, for once I was very
Posted on: 07/22/2010 00:43
Well, for once I was very quiet. His family seemed nice. It was kind of a boring evening. I lied to my bf and said that I enjoyed the evening.
We are still talking and seeing other this weekend so it must not have went too badly.
naman
OK Serena, you seem to have
Posted on: 07/22/2010 07:28
OK Serena, you seem to have survived the initial inspection. Are there any more family events that you will be included in before Christmas? Perhaps by Christmas you will have become a regular in the family events. I hope so anyway.
lastpointe
Of course that little white
Posted on: 07/22/2010 13:19
Of course that little white lie is worth it. I am sure everyone was a bit on edge adn a formal dinner type thing isn't easy.
Maybe next time you can suggest to him an informal dinner out
Glad you are sounding happy
The_Omnissiah
I personally don't mind
Posted on: 07/22/2010 18:37
I personally don't mind meeting gf/bf parents but I prefer the "us" time. Not under the microscope kinda time. And I don't like introducing people to my parents (friends, lovers, the works) lol.
As-salaamu alaikum
-Omni
Serena
naman wrote: OK Serena, you
Posted on: 07/23/2010 00:05
OK Serena, you seem to have survived the initial inspection. Are there any more family events that you will be included in before Christmas? Perhaps by Christmas you will have become a regular in the family events. I hope so anyway.
Not that I know of. But it is come to a point where it is just expected that on our mutual days off of work we will be together and whatever one has to do the other will do that with them.
Great another Christmas where nobody has the same last name as me. I decided last year that I would work through Christmas.
lastpointe
don't look so far
Posted on: 07/23/2010 09:02
don't look so far ahead.
that you want to and more or less plan on spending days off together is great.
A fun friend to be with, to care about and to care for.
What more can anyone ask for right now. Enjoy the moments
carolla
Glad to hear it went
Posted on: 07/25/2010 17:40
Glad to hear it went reasonably well Serena.
Hey Omni - help me understand the "I don't like introducing people to my parents" thing ... I'm a parent ... I'm interested in your perspective.