Alex
Why are all the Nice Men in the World either married or straight?
Posted on: 06/21/2009 21:33
Can you tell me why this seems to be? 
(of course some would say Why are all the nice men married or gay?, or Why are all the Nice women married or straight/lesbian?0
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Kappa
The short answer is, they're
Posted on: 06/21/2009 21:58
The short answer is, they're not.
The long answer I think is that we tend to keep tabs on our woes. When we are looking for love, we also have in the back of our mind everyone we have met in our past life who is now married or staight/gay, or (my personal favorite because of the sting) just "not that into you." Then this makes us feel more negative. When we become more negative, our thinking becomes more narrow and focused, and we find it difficult to see how things could be anything other than the current negative way we perceive them (i.e., "I will never find a nice man.")
On the flip side, you will not find yourself thinking this if you have found a man/partner/buddy, or whatever you are looking for, because you won't be LOOKING.
I sympathize, and have thought this often (except that I'm looking for a straight man, so all the nice men are gay!). I wish I had some words of encouragement that were not cliche. All I can think of right now to say is that you are not alone and love comes in many forms.
Serena
I think Alex and I will have
Posted on: 06/21/2009 22:56
I think Alex and I will have to team up and look for guys together. All the gay ones I find I can pass to him and the straight guys he can pass to me. The married ones we will beat up.
I think it is a way better idea than going guy prowling with my female friends because they are competition.
Alex
Nice strategy Serena
Posted on: 06/21/2009 23:01
Nice strategy Serena
Kappa
(No subject)
Posted on: 06/22/2009 08:37
SLJudds
A lame excuse similar to the
Posted on: 06/22/2009 13:55
A lame excuse similar to the guy that thinks that any woman who isn't hot for him is a Lesbian.
I'm straight, I have a job, and I have been single for years. Howcum the ladies aren't clamoring for me?
Okay - I have more emotional baggage than you can stuff into Samsonite. And I'm old and fat.
Details, details!
jesouhaite777
Unless you live with them how
Posted on: 06/22/2009 14:14
Unless you live with them how do you know that they are nice ?
Lots of supposedly straight married men are having secret gay encounters and no one knows about it .
There are happy single people out there
And people in relationships that are completely miserable
tasharoo
my boyfriend was married when
Posted on: 06/22/2009 14:17
my boyfriend was married when we met. He's the greatest man alive. Not marriage material for someone else, but PERFECT for me.
There is a man out there for you. TRUST ME.
have hope :)
tasharoo
my boyfriend was married when
Posted on: 06/22/2009 14:18
my boyfriend was married when we met. He's the greatest man alive. Not marriage material for someone else, but PERFECT for me.
There is a man out there for you. TRUST ME.
have hope :)
Sharron
Never judge a book by its
Posted on: 06/22/2009 22:32
Never judge a book by its cover. You don't know that there are no nice men out there, it's just that the ones you like are married or gay. Start fishing in other waters and you may find who you are looking for. I too am single but figure that God will send around the right man at the right time. In the mean time enjoy your time alone. We don't always need a man to complete our life, although it is nice if it works out.
So many people who are not married wish they were and so many that are married wish they weren't so go figure...lol
Sharron