Initially I wlll discuss evidence derived from unusual cases that cannot be found in books on Near-Death Experiences (NDEs). Then I will expand the discussion to include pre-death experiences and alleged cases of After-Death contact (ADCs). I begin with Phyllis's 2 NDEs.
I met Phyllis at a wedding reception held at a golf course in Buffalo, NY. She had 2 PhDs in medically related fields and was a medical researcher. She was charming in an icily aloof way--a fact important to understanding her dilemma. In my current role as a United Methodist pastor, I had performed a wedding, and she felt prompted to ask me about her strange NDEs. (1) She was in a car accident and had lost consciousness when she experienced her first NDE. She found herself "in a mall that wasn't really a mall; it was a mall of white light." As she wandered through, she heard beautiful unearthly music, apparently from a hidden orchestra. As she strolled towards the music, she encountered several tables in what looked like a food court area with no food. She was shocked to see her recently deceased mother seated at a table. Phyllis sat down, but would soon regret doing so. Her Mom scolded her: "Why haven't you come to terms with my death? You need to grieve my passing. Your failure to do so is hindering my spiritual progress over here." Phyllis had some issues with her Mom that she didn't care to share, but she clearly had reacted to this death by detaching from her emotions. Phyllis recovered from her injuries and tried to put this NDE out of her mind.
(2) A couple of years later, she developed a life-threatening female-related illness that she never identified for me. I sensed it was breast cancer. She was seriously ill enough to be rushed to the hospital and to lose consciousness as she was immersed in a 2nd NDE. Once again, she found herself in the mall of white light, and once again, found herself seated opposite her irate mother. "Why haven't you come to terms with my death like I asked you. Do you want to impede my progress here?" Then Mom pointed down at the table of white light and insisted: `You need to make this table vanish.'" The table apparently symbolized an unhealthy psychological link that needed to be dissolved. Phyllis was unable or unwilling to comply; so she just sat there and sulked. She found no comfort in the beautiful orchestra music in the background. Finally, she sighed, saying, "Well, I guess I'll try to get back to my body now." Her Mom, interrupted her: "No, you're not raedy to return to your body. You need to go with these 2 gentlemen." At that, 2 large men in white robes appeared and took Phyllis to "an elevator that wasn't really an elevator. It was an elevator of white light." As the 3 "ascended," she was taken to what she could only describe as some sort of spirit hospital in Paradise, where a "medical procedure" that she didn't understand was performed on her spirit body. When she was returned to her body, her disease was totally cured; she no longer needed the scheduled emergency surgery. Somehow I suspect that she never did allow herself to grieve her mother's loss. It has been claimed by mystics that our grief can impede the progress of our loved ones on the other side. Phyllis seemd to encounter the opposite! She was incapable of grief. I never discovered the dysfunctional issues in their relationship. But the verification (i. e. the healing) of the genuineness of her experiences intrigues me.