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"A good Christian girl in a big gay world"

Refreshingly Interesting article from the (usually) celebrity- gossip obsessed "AfterEllen":

http://www.afterellen.com/beyondvisibility/09-01-2010

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Beshpin wrote: The phrase

Beshpin wrote:

The phrase "god made me and he doesn't make mistakes" needs to be dropped. God neither made you nor made you perfect.

What?? You've given up on the idea that God created everything? The cafe must be corrupting you young fella. 

 

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 How does she resolve being christian and gay?

What is there to resolve? The majority of Christendom long ago outgrew justifying prejudice and bigotry by twisting the Message of Christ.

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She pretends that god made her that way, which is not true.

Well, thank goodness we have you handy to define how God is permitted to Create besh.

 

Sorry son, haven't yanked your chain in ages.

 

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Sometimes I find either/or

Sometimes I find either/or articles like this kind of confusing.  What I don't understand is why people who don't fit into the religious box constructed by the evangelical church don't look for another church that celebrates diversity, like the UCC in Canada or the United Church of Christ in the US.   It's not as though the only choice is either being an evangelical Christian or being gay.  There are liberal churches that welcome everyone.....even Democrats.   Are progressive Christian and Unitarian churches so low profile that people who are marginalized in the evangelical church don't even know they're out there?

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AH but what if your base

AH but what if your base theological position fits in a more conservative church but you also happen to be gay?

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ooohhh.  Good point, GordW. 

ooohhh.  Good point, GordW. 

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GordW wrote: AH but what if

GordW wrote:

AH but what if your base theological position fits in a more conservative church but you also happen to be gay?

 

Well, you either have to switch your sexual orientation or your church, whichever is easier.

 

Usually, the latter is easier.

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Beshpin wrote: The phrase

Beshpin wrote:

The phrase "god made me and he doesn't make mistakes" needs to be dropped. God neither made you nor made you perfect.

 

The article is good, but it hardly touches anything serious. She's still pretty afraid and skirts the issue pretty clearly. How does she resolve being christian and gay? She pretends that god made her that way, which is not true. I like that people are more willing to talk about both things nowadays, but this really doesn't address the heart of the matter.

 

Of course GOD made her and more her innerantly. That's one of the most basic truths there are in Christendom. You claim is completely absurd.

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Diana wrote: Sometimes I find

Diana wrote:

Sometimes I find either/or articles like this kind of confusing.  What I don't understand is why people who don't fit into the religious box constructed by the evangelical church don't look for another church that celebrates diversity, like the UCC in Canada or the United Church of Christ in the US.   It's not as though the only choice is either being an evangelical Christian or being gay.  There are liberal churches that welcome everyone.....even Democrats.   Are progressive Christian and Unitarian churches so low profile that people who are marginalized in the evangelical church don't even know they're out there?

 

That's true. I thought it was a beautiful article, I really loved it, but I found myself strongly hoping that she finds a nice affirming congregation that will give her a good CHRIST centered church home. Luckily there are more and more options, United Church of CHRIST, Lutheran, Episcopalian, Presbyterian, Metropolitan Community Church, and probably a blue dozen others.

Also I have to say that "Oranges are not the only fruit" is a great movie. It's British and some people appreciate that better than others, but it's definitely worth seeing. The love between the young ladies in the movies feels very true.

Lastly I have a good article on Jennifer Knapp which let me know that Ray Boltz is gay too. He was very popular in the church I grew up in. Sadly I doubt he still is and that's a shame.

 

http://www.cnn.com/2010/SHOWBIZ/Music/04/16/jennifer.knapp.gay/index.html

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GordW wrote: AH but what if

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AH but what if your base theological position fits in a more conservative church but you also happen to be gay?

 

I don't have the article saved (it wasn't recent) but I have read about churches like that. They have a predominantly gay congregation and are very traditional, you might say conservative, on most issues with the exception of obviously being pro-gay rights. Basically their core are people who grew up Southern Baptist and similar and who hold to most of that while recognizing that the S.B.C. et. al. is completely wrong about homosexuality.

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Beshpin wrote:While all

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While all things were made by god (see the big bang), they are not put together by him directly. Any theology that negates or ignores the effects of fortuitous events, random events, and general chance in lieu of god needs to rethink what they are talking about.

 

What makes you think God is not in control of what looks to us like "fortuitous events, random events, and general chance..."? I certainly believe that He is.

 

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Either humans are free to make choices and interact with their environment or they are within a completely closed system that only works when god turns the crank.

 

Personally, beshpin, I believe that both are true.

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jon71 wrote:That's true. I

jon71 wrote:
That's true. I thought it was a beautiful article, I really loved it, but I found myself strongly hoping that she finds a nice affirming congregation that will give her a good CHRIST centered church home. Luckily there are more and more options, United Church of CHRIST, Lutheran, Episcopalian, Presbyterian, Metropolitan Community Church, and probably a blue dozen others.

 

Not all Lutheran and Presbyterian churches are affirming.

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Beshpin said  " While all

Beshpin said  "

While all things were made by god (see the big bang), they are not put together by him directly. Any theology that negates or ignores the effects of fortuitous events, random events, and general chance in lieu of god needs to rethink what they are talking about. Either humans are free to make choices and interact with their environment or they are within a completely closed system that only works when god turns the crank."

 

I agree theological that God did not make me biologically.  However, God loves diversity and so in my theology God welcomes gays etal.  I also do not want to do biological reductionism to find the gay gene or whatever is the 'cause' for that is also a problematic search. 

 

To reject gays is a theological mistake and it will be hard for some conservatives to remain in churches that say homosexality is a sin.  Either they have to change their theology or find a church as Jon suggests that affrims both a conservative or evangelical turn and is affirming - This is happening/

It is not an either or - one can be christ centered ( to use that code word) and affirming of oneself as gay.   It is called a healthy world view.

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Panentheism wrote:To reject

Panentheism wrote:
To reject gays is a theological mistake and it will be hard for some conservatives to remain in churches that say homosexality is a sin.  Either they have to change their theology or find a church as Jon suggests that affrims both a conservative or evangelical turn and is affirming - This is happening/

 

It is? What conservative evangelical churches do you know of that are affirming?

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RivermanJae wrote:

Panentheism wrote:
To reject gays is a theological mistake and it will be hard for some conservatives to remain in churches that say homosexality is a sin.  Either they have to change their theology or find a church as Jon suggests that affrims both a conservative or evangelical turn and is affirming - This is happening/

 

It is? What conservative evangelical churches do you know of that are affirming?

 

You might think it would be the ones where the pastors were caught with male prostitutes, but as it turns out, they aren't affirming, either.

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besh2 wrote: While all things

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While all things were made by god (see the big bang), they are not put together by him directly. Any theology that negates or ignores the effects of fortuitous events, random events, and general chance in lieu of god needs to rethink what they are talking about. Either humans are free to make choices and interact with their environment or they are within a completely closed system that only works when god turns the crank.

Ah, besh2, I should have known. Good to hear from you again.

So does this mean that your position is more along the lines of God as the poolplayer who kicks things off by breaking (big bang), then lets the balls bang around for a bit before continuing the game with his next shot (prophets, Jesus, plagues, etc)?

 

And does that mean that, in your perspective, that those who don't fit into your understanding of Christianity, are bad balls (so to speak)?

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gr wrote:

besh wrote:
 

 How does she resolve being christian and gay?

What is there to resolve? The majority of Christendom long ago outgrew justifying prejudice and bigotry by twisting the Message of Christ.

Actually, if you did your homework, they would be twisting the words of Moses and/or the priesthood of israel. How that has anything to do with christ is beyond me.

So you are not one who sees the Message of Christ in the old testament as well as the new? Okay, my error if that's the case. Personally, I kinda see the hand of God throughout.

 

But to the point of my comment, as you well know, churches who claim to be "Christ-centered" but who also condemn same-gendered couples to hell, use exactly those passages. So, seems to have a lot "to do with Christ" to me,

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 Saying "god made me gay" is equally stupid to saying "god made people black so we know they're evil", it's not as racist by any stretch, but it's as equally untrue and equally invalid.

 

Since these are two totally disconnected references, I think you'll have to do better if you want to make a case here. The first reference is a statement of affirmation by the person themselves. The second is a label applied by an outside agent to dehumanize a group.

 

Frankly, I find nothing stupid or invalid about someone claiming to be okay with God just as they are. It shows that they understand their innate "goodness" and connection to Theos.

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Sorry son, haven't yanked your chain in ages.

 

 No problem, mom.

You're besh's mom??  Cool. I always enjoy your posts. While we differ theologically, you do a much neater job of tying your beliefs into rationalizations. Your son just tends to foam at the mouth and write graffitti on my WC wall.

 

David

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Panentheism wrote: one can be

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one can be christ centered ( to use that code word) and affirming of oneself as gay.   It is called a healthy world view.

Amen

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MCC is one - some mainline

MCC is one - some mainline churches have an evangelical feel and are affirming.  _ it is Jon who mentioned the possibility of a conservative church which is affirming - for me it is a possibllity  like some of the young evangelicals who are affirming  -

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Panentheism wrote: MCC is one

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MCC is one - some mainline churches have an evangelical feel and are affirming.  _ it is Jon who mentioned the possibility of a conservative church which is affirming - for me it is a possibllity  like some of the young evangelicals who are affirming  -

 

MCC is not conservative evangelical.

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jon71 wrote: GordW wrote: AH

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GordW wrote:

AH but what if your base theological position fits in a more conservative church but you also happen to be gay?

 

I don't have the article saved (it wasn't recent) but I have read about churches like that. They have a predominantly gay congregation and are very traditional, you might say conservative, on most issues with the exception of obviously being pro-gay rights.

In some ways many MCC congregations tend to be what you are describing (or at least so I have heard)

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Here is a young evangelical

Here is a young evangelical conservative who is inclusive -Irrestible Revolution: living as an ordinary radical, by Shane Claiborne

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Panentheism wrote:  it is Jon

Panentheism wrote:

 it is Jon who mentioned the possibility of a conservative church which is affirming - for me it is a possibllity  like some of the young evangelicals who are affirming  -

Isn't the Emergent Church....or Emerging Church...can't remember which - something along this vein?  Is it Bruce McLaren who describes a new way of being church, where young people gather in a cafe or cocktail party type atmosphere, and the focus is on living like Jesus, rather than on doctrine.  This is an evangelical Christian development, isn't it? 

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Yes in the McLaren group -

Yes in the McLaren group - there is also a progressive emerging church movement - go to the big tent site on the web.

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Here is another affirming

Here is another affirming evangelical

Ronald Goetz

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I know many gay and lesbian

I know many gay and lesbian Christians who have stayed within their faith traditions .It is no different sometimes than a Roman Catholic differing with the pope on something and not choosing to quit mass, or those who disagreed on slavery or the role of women...

 

There are also those who make inroads within a denomination. like Gay Apostolic Petnecostals and the Association of Welcoming and Affirming Baptists or Evangelicals Concerned...

 

Look into places like Highland Church in Denver or Casa de Cristo in Pheonix

 

One might also recall that “Evangelicals” meant spreaders of the Good News... and then were during Reformation and were liberal protestants (Birtish, Dutch, German) in the 1730's and on into the late 19th century... They were those for whom the term ‘evangelical’ signified an attitude of tolerance, the antithesis of our current cultural definition. They touted social reform and abolition....These social progressives are recalled in many churches of various denominations by naming their building with Evangelical in their title and they still cherish educated inquiry, inclusive embrace, and the pursuit of peace.

 

Just because some people grabbed the evenagelical name and sullied it in the 20th century, does not mean it needs handed over to them.

 

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SC good points

SC good points

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Jae, you do know that the

Jae, you do know that the founder of the MCC was a Baptist minister, along with pastoring other conservative churches including Pentecostal, eh? His theology is quite actually conservative. He was moderator until 2005. Nancy Wilson is current moderator (yes they have only had 2). You can find MCC's that are extremely theologically conservative.

 

Dusty Pruitt is another from the Baptist tradition. I know her story well. She was US Army major and MCC pastor who did an inteview with the LA Times " Marching Out of the Closet" that saw her major ststus stripped and her discharged. Her appeal and court case saw her reinstated along with others.

 

People's theology can be conservative and them not be homophobic, just like people can have a liberal theology and still be homophobic.

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Beshpin wrote: This is the

Beshpin wrote:

This is the essence of why you can't carry on a conversation.

Because you don't respond to my comments with anything substantial?

Good point. 

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SG wrote:Jae, you do know

SG wrote:
Jae, you do know that the founder of the MCC was a Baptist minister, along with pastoring other conservative churches including Pentecostal, eh? His theology is quite actually conservative. He was moderator until 2005. Nancy Wilson is current moderator (yes they have only had 2). You can find MCC's that are extremely theologically conservative.

 

Hi SG,

 

That's pretty interesting stuff. Perhaps you could post some links for me to conservative evangelical MCC congregations. Thanks. You're the best SG, the best.

 

Peace in Christ.

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I can provide you with one of

I can provide you with one of the top of my head that is the home congregation of a very goog friend and a congregation conservative by most standards. I am sure reading, most here would say this is conservative in language, approach, etc....

http://www.mccdc.com/inside/worship.htm

 

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jae, this might help and then

jae, this might help and then you can look for them if you so choose

http://www.agcmcc.org/about_mcc.htm

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It was HIM who made her and

It was HIM who made her and he is the only one who understands her. While I'm doubtful about bi people (I think they are nothing but promiscious, confused young adults), I believe that gays, lesbians and transgender are just as much part of God's plan as the blind, deaf, and never born. I believe they will all be in heaven as long as they have Jesus in their hearts.

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Ichthys wrote: It was HIM who

Ichthys wrote:

It was HIM who made her and he is the only one who understands her. While I'm doubtful about bi people, I believe that gays, lesbians and transgender are just as much part of God's plan as the blind, deaf, and never born. I believe they will all be in heaven as long as they have Jesus in their hearts.

 

Hi Ichthys,

 

According to your beliefs, how is it possible for someone unborn to have Jesus in their heart? I don't think such a thing is possible. As they have never born I don't believe they have had the opportunity to accept Jesus.

 

Peace in Christ.

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Yes. That's an exception of

Yes. That's an exception of course. I have been editing around with the text. But I believe since they have never been born, they are free of any sin thus receive salvation.  Okay. back to topic.

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SC if I am correct the

SC if I am correct the founder of MCC was a pentacostal - that does not change the points you have made.

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Mr. Perry's ministry path was

Mr. Perry's ministry path was both Baptist and Pentecostal. I believe he started Baptist and moved to Pentecostal, before MCC, but it could be the other way around. My point was that it is possible to be a conservative, evangelical Christian and queer.

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I must say that as a very

I must say that as a very left wing democratic socialist mostly straight but always brave and open enough to act on my bi interests - when I was  single - I was never accepted by any form of straight society but was welcomed with interest and belief by the church of gay disco.

 

If it hadn't been for the church of gay disco, I would have found  impossible  and even more harsh, the transition between having basically healed from my mental health time trial  and recognising my massive left wing affirmation as not only essentially me but essentially the needs of the planet and medicine.  If it hadn't been for the church of gay disco I wouldn't have found comfort in the UCC second time round.  

 

What I discovered at the church of gay disco is that there really is a society which is too straight.  They often come in herds - they can be angry and mean or they can be well heeled and arrogant as hell, imagining that they are open minded and amaaaaaazingly bi curious while being both racist and class elitist as well as right wing ( and they take up all the room on the dance floor and all they want to do is spoon 'n" groove dance which is fun for a bit but ultimately so affected and kind of a waste of dance space after a while).

 

At the church of gay disco, I discovered the need to accept uptight right wing neoconformist gays in my ultra left wing church - thereby muddying the waters of the socialist directives of the prairie intellectuals of the former/early  UCC church.  Through merely accepting the plight of  ultra right wing neo conformist gays I learned to accept scary neoconformist & rigid straights; though I will always argue with both groups and never give in.   

 

At the church of gay disco I wore a tee shirt that reflected the words "pinko peuk" in the irridescent light which refered to my politics and my prefered method of healing )naturopathy.   I was always accepted and was able to find an in at the front of any line and women aren't even taken "seriously" at a gay disco.  

 

Shows me that humanity can accept any form of self-actualization and self-autonomy that is non-violent and we should just go from there.

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Ichthys wrote: It was HIM who

Ichthys wrote:

It was HIM who made her and he is the only one who understands her. While I'm doubtful about bi people (I think they are nothing but promiscious, confused young adults), I believe that gays, lesbians and transgender are just as much part of God's plan as the blind, deaf, and never born. I believe they will all be in heaven as long as they have Jesus in their hearts.

Some great mixed messages there, thanks.  I have to be honest: what I am going to write is a bit harsh but I really feel I must --having known many bi people, I think  your comment is silly if not insulting, poorly thought out and deeply confused.  (Moreover, for the record, I suspect that "promiscious confused young adults" are just as much a part of God's plan as anyone else!)

Moreover moreover....As if it is only "promiscious confused young adults" that identify as bi....) Good gravy.

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Ichthys wrote: It was HIM who

Ichthys wrote:

It was HIM who made her and he is the only one who understands her. While I'm doubtful about bi people (I think they are nothing but promiscious, confused young adults), I believe that gays, lesbians and transgender are just as much part of God's plan as the blind, deaf, and never born. I believe they will all be in heaven as long as they have Jesus in their hearts.

I'm just going to quote this and leave it here.  No need to respond.

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