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poster formerly known as specialmom

I have been thinking of changing my online name for a while.  I chose the name "specialmom" at a time in my life (about four years ago) when my entire being seemed to be enmeshed in the role of being a parent to a special needs child.  Somehow I couldn't conceive of an indentity beyond that role.

 

Fast forward four years and while I am still the parent of a profoundly disabled child I no longer feel that is my exclusive identity.  I have found that there is more to me than being a caregiver.  It's a good place to be.

 

Today at the wondercafe picnic I talked about the fact that I wanted to change my name but wondered if that would be okay.  I received a fair bit of support.  Thanks guys!!!

 

So here I am.  DaisyJane.  I selected Daisy because they are my favourite flower.  My bridal bouquet was daisies.  Daisy by itself had already been taken by another poster so I also added Jane which is my middle name.  Voila.  DaisyJane.

 

 

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crazyheart's picture

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 It is so you these days and

daisy smiley It is so you these days and I am happy for you.

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I think it's a great change

I think it's a great change and I'm glad that your life is evolving from where it was four years ago.  For what it's worth I have no problem at all with folks changing their usernames here if they do it with integrity like you are doing here and giving a head's up.

 

Thanks for that.

 

And thanks for not picking some weird unpronoucable symbol too

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Welcome DaisyJane. It was

Welcome DaisyJane. It was great meeting you and everyone else too at the picnic.

 

Does this mean Specialson now becomes Daisyson? Just asking.

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I love the flowers Jae. 

I love the flowers Jae.  Thanks.  It was awesome meeting you today, along with your partner!  It was a great picnic.

 

I suppose Matthew could be specialson, daisyson or I suppose I could just call him Matthew.

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Welcome DaisyJane.

Welcome DaisyJane.

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DaisyJane, I sent you a daisy

DaisyJane, I sent you a daisy but i see it disappeared.

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Right on!  I have been

Right on!  I have been thinking about this . . . really!  . . . for quite a while.  I'm so glad that you have been thinking about it too.  WAY TO GO . . SO cool.

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awesome...love

awesome...love it.

 

(ps...great middle name!)

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Daisyjane!! Very nice, and

Daisyjane!! Very nice, and great to see you too, today!  Congrats on the evolution as well, that is a healthy thing to grow beyond our struggles.

 

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I like your new name. Very

I like your new name. Very cheery. I am posting this from my BlackBerry so cannot send you a daisy right now.

Pinga, did DaisyJane spell her name right? ;-)

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nope....well...maybe for

nope....well...maybe for daisyjane.

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probalby better than

probalby better than dazyjane...or dazjayne

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Your story made me grin,

Your story made me grin, DaisyJane...cheers to you!

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I like change! Good choice

I like change! Good choice

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Good for you Daisy Jane!   I

Good for you Daisy Jane!   I like it!

Great to see you today!

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Love new name, dj...now I've

Love new name, dj...now I've got to remember it. It helps that you've kept the same avatar - you might want to consider hanging onto it for a while so that the association sticks...? Wonderful way of describing your transition, too.

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 Way to go DaisyJane ! 

 Way to go DaisyJane ! 

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Pinga wrote: probalby better

Pinga wrote:

probalby better than dazyjane...or dazjayne

 

As I read this all I can think of is DaisyChain

 

There is a flower, a little flower
With silver crest and golden eye,
That welcomes every changing hour,
And weathers every sky

     James Montgomery, The Daisy -

          On Finding one in Bloom on Christmas-day

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Welcome DaisyJane.  I

Welcome DaisyJane.  I resonate with your reasons to change your username.  At some times in our lives we are overwhelmed with certain things and at other times we allow ourselves to embrace other aspects of our being.

 

I think daisies are such beautiful flowers too.

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DJ I guess I was unclear,  I

DJ

I guess I was unclear,  I have been wondering and thinking of this for quite awhile with reference to you - not me. 

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DaisyJane - very nice name!

DaisyJane - very nice name! :)

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I keep seeing  a PolkaDot

I keep seeing  a PolkaDot blouse and DaisyDukes and Mary Janes.What a picture in my mind.

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DaisyJane wrote: Fast forward

DaisyJane wrote:

Fast forward four years and while I am still the parent of a profoundly disabled child I no longer feel that is my exclusive identity.  I have found that there is more to me than being a caregiver.  It's a good place to be.

So good to read this      - life is so much better when we feel we're in a good place.

I thought about you after the picnic - you're a strong woman, physically and mentally - you have a lot to be proud of.

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crazyheart wrote: I keep

crazyheart wrote:

I keep seeing  a PolkaDot blouse and DaisyDukes and Mary Janes.What a picture in my mind.

I didn't think I saw you at the picnic yesterday Crazyheart and yet you describe EXACTLY what Daisy Jane looks like.....right down to what she was wearing!!!!  You must be psychic!

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DaisyJane - lovely!  It so

DaisyJane - lovely!  It so suits you at this moment in time.   I hope we're all in the process of evolving, growing, re-inventing ourselves as the years roll onward.  It was wonderful to meet you in person yesterday!

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  I am on my computer now and

 

I am on my computer now and wanted to give you more daisies. I thought this wreath would be nice for your door. Enjoy.

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Excellent! As a child, my

Excellent! As a child, my nickname from my aunt was DaisyJune. Perhaps we're related! ;)...cms

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I think this is good. And it

I think this is good. And it gets me to thinking about names in general. Names we choose, names that are given to us, how we feel when people change their names, people's nicknames... Some people prefer to be called by their middle names...

 

In old chinese culture, and first nations culture, people would get a new name when they became grown up, hence Curly Hair became Crazy Horse.

 

I have always both liked and disliked my given name, and imagined other better names, or variants on my name. I am happy to have had the chance to give myself a name here on WC. And it has grown with me just like a real name. I identify myself as my name here, yet at the same time, it isn't real...   

 

Stuff to ponder...

 

Love Daisyjane as a choice. : ) Daisy is my birthflower. It was on my baby names list~

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Way to go daisyJane-I had

Way to go daisyJane-I had figured this would happen by the picnic post.

It is good to define yourself in other ways now.

Thanks for keeping your avatar the same for a while-as we get used to the change-but I expect eventually it too will be changed.

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I'm so glad to hear of your

I'm so glad to hear of your positive evolution, DaisyJane.

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Aw DaisyJane - it will take

Aw DaisyJane - it will take me awhile.  I understand why you might feel the need for a change, but I've become used to you being Specialmom.  I think that in part of my mind you will always be - specialmom - and a very special person.  But DaisyJane you shall be, and I will learn to call you DaisyJane, and eventually think of you as DaisyJane.  I will still remember how I met you and Matthew at the 2009 picnic, when you were Specialmom. 

 

Daisies are one of my favourite flowers.  I almost always have some wild daisies come up somewhere in my periniel patch each year - and I always let them grow and bloom. 

 

Welcome DaisyJane.

 

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In related news, I, the

In related news, I, the poster currently known as "jae" will soon be changing my name to "specialmom." Watch for it.

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LOL!!!!   Does that mean I

LOL!!!!

 

Does that mean I can drop Matthew off for a few weeks.  He was particularly cranky today.  I could use the break!!!!  He's all yours!

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Love it DaisyJane!  

Love it DaisyJane!

 

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DaisyJane is wonderful. So

DaisyJane is wonderful. So full of life and beauty.

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Great new name.

Great new name.

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I, too, like the new name. 

I, too, like the new name.  Though I liked 'Specialmom' too.  IMHO all moms are special.

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DaisyJane

DaisyJane wrote:

LOL!!!!

 

Does that mean I can drop Matthew off for a few weeks.  He was particularly cranky today.  I could use the break!!!!  He's all yours!

 

You could drop him off with C~. She actually has lots of experience working with special needs kids. As for me, I'll take a short vacation.

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